life tip #1 | why you need to travel

Saturday, December 29, 2012


“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.”
― Saint Augustine of Hippo

“Every dreamer knows that it is entirely possible to be homesick for a place you've never been to, perhaps more homesick than for familiar ground.”
― Judith Thurman

Travelling is an art. Since Ibn Battuta and Marco Polo, travelogues have been a window into other worlds. Tales and imagery too exotic to be true, places so unfamiliar that they seem more dreamlike than real... this is the stuff of adventure. Doesn't mean you have to buy a one-way ticket to Timbuktu to experience the same thing! Just venture a little bit out of your comfort zone to start reaping the rewards of travel. Simply uprooting yourself and testing the waters of an unfamiliar place is something very personal: every individual adapts (or doesn't adapt) differently, we all approach new places and people with our unique predispositions and expectations. To travel is to explore yourself.

The world is not as big as it seems, but it's big enough that you'll never see all of it, no matter how hard you try. This certainly doesn't mean you shouldn't bother to explore it at all! So much ignorance is the result of lack of exposure to different people, places, and ideas.

Make 2013 your year to be bold, to attempt a bit of travel, no matter how small. Go explore a new town, visit friends who live in another state (or better yet, country!). Take a road trip; get a passport. Go find yourself!

the invisible war: rape prevalent in U.S. military

Friday, December 28, 2012

More than 20 percent of active-duty servicewomen are sexually assaulted.

Since 2006, more than 95,000 service members have been sexually assaulted in the U.S. military.

More than 86% of service members do not report their assault.

Less than five percent of all sexual assaults are put forward for prosecution, and less than a third of those cases result in imprisonment.


We highly recommend watching this documentary, The Invisible War, which was released in October of this year. Directed by Kirby Dick, it shines light on the epidemic of rape within the U.S. military, letting actual victims tell their stories. The lack of concern that these women were shown after they were raped is shocking. When each and every one came forward to report the crimes, they faced "a second assault": commanding officers who either don't believe them or who refuse to do anything about the crime.

ABC News says: as terrible as the rape was, the repercussions were almost as horrendous -- women were accused of adultery (if the perpetrator happened to be married) or "conduct unbecoming an officer." They lost rank, they were accused of having "set up the men." When one of the women reported a rape -- the third that week in one particular unit -- she was asked, "You girls think this is a game; are you all in cahoots?"

Many of our closet NATO allies no longer allow commanders to determine the prosecution of sexual assault crimes, yet within the U.S. military, where rape has become so prevalent that a female soldier is now more likely to be raped by one of her fellow soldiers than killed in combat, many women are finding themselves trapped because the person in the chain of command to whom they should report the crime is either a friend of the rapist (in 33% of case) or the rapist himself (in 25% of cases).

The most horrifying account which comes to light in this film is the story of Kori Cioca, who is still dealing with a major jaw injury inflicted when her rapist hit her in the face.

In February 2011, seventeen United States veterans filed suit against the Pentagon and defense secretary Robert Gates and former secretary Donald Rumsfeld, alleging that they allowed a culture in the military where rape was unevenly reported and punished. In several of the plaintiffs' cases, the victim was forced to work with the accused rapist after reporting them for sexual assault. Unit commanders often have heavy influence over military rape cases, and less than one in five cases are prosecuted (from Wikipedia). In December 2011, the Court dismissed the survivors' lawsuit ruling that rape is an occupational hazard of military service. An appeal has been filed.

Invisible No More is a non-partisan coalition working to end sexual assault within the U.S. military and to help survivors of Military Sexual Assault heal.. You can visit their website to learn more and get involved.

Also check out some of these related news articles: "Sexual assaults in military bring shame, not action" in USA Today and "Sexual Violence and the Military" in the NY Times.

raven + lily: empowering women worldwide

Monday, December 10, 2012


I just discovered a jewelry and accessories company called Raven + Lily, which sells some very beautiful, interesting pieces. The more interesting part of this company is how they operate: they employ marginalized women, providing them with sustainable economic opportunities, and their proceeds also fund healthcare and literacy programs for women and children in this community.

A lot of their jewelry is made in Ethiopia from melted bullet casings and recycled metals such as copper and brass. The women who handmake these pieces are HIV-positive women, a very marginalized group in Ethiopia. Due to its unique nature, much of the jewelry will antique over time.

Definitely check out their blog, which details their travels to the localities in which they've established all of these fantastic cooperatives.

They have clothing items as well - scarves and t-shirts. They also have accessories likes bags and journals. Their Uzma Travel Journals are handmade 100% recycled cotton paper and textiles by marginalized women in Northern India. Proceeds from this collection go to fund literacy programs for the women artisans and children in the community. They're absolutely beautiful, I've already nabbed a couple for Christmas gifts. I love fair trade shopping, and I love knowing that there's a story behind an item. Empowering women in poorer nations is a cause that remains particularly close to my heart. I truly believe that greater equality for women will mean a more peaceful planet; in fact, I recently wrote a paper for a class I'm taking (Cross-Cultural Psychology) in which I found a number of studies that illustrate how societies with strictly-enforced gender roles and sexism tend to have higher levels of male aggression and are more likely to dissolve into war.

Currently, the three regions in which R+L operates are northern India, Ethiopia, and Cambodia. They're a member of another organization I've never heard of, the Ethical Fashion Forum’s 500 Fellows around the globe, which is apparently "an exclusive group of 500 of the world’s foremost innovators and leaders in the fashion sector."

“by nord” designs: gorgeous scandinavian aesthetic

Saturday, December 8, 2012


I am in love with By Nord.  The Copenhagen-based company was founded in 2008, and has truly mastered the beautiful, natural simplicity of the Scandinavian aesthetic.  Embracing light and nature elements like wood, water, cotton, pottery, and plants, By Nord’s products encompass the idea of creating a home which embraces the outside world, even invites the elements of the surrounding environment in.  Everything is made organically, with no dangerous added chemicals or artificial materials.
Probably their most popular product at the moment, By Nord’s gorgeous duvet covers each showcase a striking greyscale photograph of a northern-dwelling animal, and each is paired with a pillowcase (sold separately) that reads like an Arctic wildlife guide.
Wouldn’t you know it, the company also makes tea!  I was unable to find descriptions of what’s actually in each blend, but the titles are thrilling: Deep Forest, White Energy, Morning Breeze…  I’m also in love with their throws, all of which are chunky and think-knit.  The colors are soft browns and blues, and the fabrics are wool or cotton.
You have to check out their catalog to see some of the gorgeous photos, as well as their full collection of household items.  If you fall in love with the Scandinavian aesthetic as I have, I also recommend checking out the French store Boutique Scandinave, as well as the Stockholm Design Lab.

“doom and gloom” by the rolling stones

Friday, December 7, 2012


I love the Rolling Stones, and true love lasts a lifetime… so I am so happy that they’ve finally released a song since the 70s that I like. Though it certainly can’t compare to their original material, it’s pretty damn catchy.

The music video (which, unfortunately, you need to be 18 to see because there’s about a half second of bare breasts… yay America…) has also renewed my trust in the Stones as troublemakers. It’s dirty and disgusting and sexy and I keep coming back for more. Noomi Rapace, the original ‘Girl with the Dragon Tattoo,’ stars as some kind of alter-ego for Mick Jagger, and you get to see her in all kinds of disarray. Bloodied and flicking off the camera, lingerie-clad and dousing herself (and a room full of hundred-dollar bills) with gasoline, dancing in stilettos in the rain… her unusual and haunting beauty is perfect for this video. Must-see for lovers and non-lovers (though I’m not sure that they exist) of the Stones.






beasts of the southern wild: why you MUST buy this film tomorrow

Monday, December 3, 2012



Or rent. Or buy the soundtrack. Or watch illegally online. Whatever your preferred method, get your hands on this film in some way!

'Beasts of the Southern Wild' has been hailed as one of the year's best films, 'miraculous', 'strikingly beautiful and haunting', and 'startlingly original.' It's quite a bit different (and better!) than your typical post-apocalyptic film; it also, with its simplicity and scope, puts most Hollywood-produced films to shame.

The story begins with a little girl, Hushpuppy, living with her half-drunk and dying father in an abandoned, water-soaked dump called the Bathtub. This takes place in the tangible future, when sea levels have risen and water covers most of the southern United States. The few inhabitants of the Bathtub survive off scraps but live intimately with the land, refusing to leave it though they are constantly in danger of waking up one day and finding themselves underwater. As the ice caps continue to melt, ancient frozen monsters called 'aurochs' are waking up and moving towards the Bathtub. Little Hushpuppy tries desperately to make the world right as her father's health worsens and the universe falls apart around her. (Watch the trailer here.)

This film is proof that low-budget independent films can be far better than those churned out of the Hollywood machine. The 6-year old star, Quvenzhane Wallis, has been called a 'force of nature' and 100% carries the film. This young actress, in her first ever acting job, is absolutely superior to the majority of Hollywood actors out there. Her raw talent and reflective narration, through the wisdom of a child, will touch your mind and soul. Dwight Henry, who plays Wallis' father, is also a first-time actor (he's actually a New Orleans cafe owner) and is outstanding. This is director Benh Zeitlin's first feature film. And yet, with all these firsts, 'Beasts' is hands-down one of the best and most moving films I've ever seen. There are so many ways that it breaks apart and pieces back together your heart, but the most striking for me was the film's transformation of humanity's relationship with nature into the simplified and breathtaking interaction of little Hushpuppy and the aurochs. It is stunning, humbling, and inspiring. Despite all the forces that toss our little, fragile human bodies around in this great, powerful world, we are still so strong and unique and irreplaceable. In the words of Hushpuppy, 'I see that I'm a little piece of a big, big universe and that makes things right.'

As you can probably tell, I could go on forever... but I have just a couple more points. This film is (in my interpretation) one of the best and most moving allegories for global climate change that I've ever seen. That's my opinion, and you can interpret the movie as you see fit. But I saw a humbling and inspiring metaphor for human causes of environmental disaster, the need for people to realize that they are a part of the environment too, and the promise of harmony between man and nature. Last point: as I mentioned above, the soundtrack is worth your investment too. One of the best ever. Listen to 'Once There Was a Hushpuppy' and you'll be heartbroken or inspired (or both) before you even see the film.

'Beasts' is going to be available on DVD and Blu-Ray tomorrow, December 4, on iTunes, Walmart, Barnes & Noble, and the like. MUST SEE!!!
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